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Subject: Re: Spencer scanned the room...
Author: Parfaitcheri   (Authenticated as sarinvae)
Date: March 31, 2012 at 6:08:28 PM
Reply to: Re: Spencer scanned the room... by Etoile
"We were actually old to be getting married. I was seventeen, he was nineteen. Usually people marry as soon as they reach adulthood. In my case I would've been twelve. Its more difficult to tell with men though, so the normal age is generally fifteen. Its an old custom, but its falling out of tradition the more people's lifestyles change. Before, the only reason you'd delay a marriage would be to preserve or wait for something. Now people wait because they want to. I was lucky in that I got away from a stricter life and was had the freedom to choose," Aurelia smiled happily at the thought of having been free. Total freedom was not something many people managed to have, but most of her choices have been her own. "As far as two men or women being together... it can get tricky. Nobody cares, a man can marry a man and a woman can marry a woman. It's not such a big deal, unless you're a firstborn. In peasant families it often does matter but for nobles it does. Firstborn nobles are generally expected to carry on the family name and line, male or female. So normally they marry someone of the opposite gender, whether they want to or not. The rest of the children can marry whoever they like. It can get even trickier if the firstborn dies or can't have children, because then it falls to the second oldest. I've seen sad situations where two lovers are forced to separate so that the lineage can continue.

There was a plague a few years back. A friend of mine, who was married to a woman and was the seventh daughter out of seven, had to give up her wife and marry a man because all her siblings died due to plague. She's never been quite the same. Its strange to me that in America you can't marry who you want. I mean.... why?"

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