I get on with it, I suppose. There's not really that much point complaining about things. I've seen Fox throw a tantrum because she can't get what she wants enough times to know that making a fuss is completely pointless.
Effective? Effective for what? Maybe hardship makes you tougher, I suppose you could say that makes it 'effective', but what if you're not a tough person to begin with and it just makes you into a blubbering mess. Not very effective then, is it?