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Sorry if I sounded harsh ... I do relate to you. I've had some pangs of self-criticism for the names I gave. But it's not bad, I still like them a lot, and those are their names. I felt sort of disempowered once the naming was done - but the cake was baked, I would have felt too silly trying to unbake it, and also ... I enjoyed just being fascinated at what I had wrought, that had gone beyond me. Bearing the given name is like the second separation of child from mother (the first one being birth). Gotta let go.
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Thats's pretty much how my husband feels. Thank you for apologizing for sounding harsh, and I appreciate your opinion, I can totally understand the point that both you and he are making, it's hard to imagine actually doing it (changing her name)but I also would like too think I did not make a collosal mistake. I still have such regret over my oldest child's name, i guess that is part of it for me, that he would not let me use the names I loved then, etc.
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