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HelpRe: Still suffering from name regret-thoughts/advice appreciated (LONG)
in reply to a message by Elena
Thank you for sharing your story. Oh my, well Caroline is my name and I love it, so I am glad you finally got the chance to insert it! You are right, the situation is different in that unfortunately I introduced the name Rosalie to him and yet now I am the one shying away from it, whereas it sounds like you got kind of bullied into (or out of) your choices.
I just now offered him a list of 29 names, (no kidding!), as he wanted to get this over with and didn't want to talk about it or even table it for a week (per others' suggestions) the names were some re-introduced, and others new, which i like as well as or more than Rosalie-he vetoed ALL of them, saying he did not like any. He said he wouldn't go over why he did not like them, he just didn't (most of them he thinks are too on the fringe of normal). I then asked him, so what am I do to do if I am not sold on her first name? He simply responded 'then call her Violet.' and went to bed. So while he doesn't offer any names up, he seems to be unable to agree to anything else, leaving me in the same position as I was before, not feeling certain/passionate about this name but having no other options.
I am rewarming to Rosalie as I get more and more kind and supportive endorsements, and many rather passionate responses about how lovely it is. Still, I so very much wish I could have named her one of my true loves. At least I got Saoirse, Schuyler, and Felix all of which were #1 or #2 for me at the time.
As I mentioned- I have suffered mild name regret with most of my children and then managed to come back around to loving the name. the big difference with the others was I really loved the initial choices, but thought the second choices might be better whenever i hit stumbling blocks of pronunciation, etc. and started to second-guess myself. With this name, Rosalie, I am just not feeling the love right now. It's cute, I like it alright, but not dazzling the way Electra or Sapphira would be to me. I don't feel the same way I did about it 7 weeks ago.
It seems like my husband is NOT going to entertain anything, if 29 names don't have any redeeming qualities-it seems he is pretty set on staying intractable, as I suspected. SO I feel like I am in a quandary as my only other option now is Violet. I am thinking if I can manage to call her both names at once that will fill a bit of the hole, and get me over the hump,(either hormonal or permanent), as you did with Anna Caroline.
I just now offered him a list of 29 names, (no kidding!), as he wanted to get this over with and didn't want to talk about it or even table it for a week (per others' suggestions) the names were some re-introduced, and others new, which i like as well as or more than Rosalie-he vetoed ALL of them, saying he did not like any. He said he wouldn't go over why he did not like them, he just didn't (most of them he thinks are too on the fringe of normal). I then asked him, so what am I do to do if I am not sold on her first name? He simply responded 'then call her Violet.' and went to bed. So while he doesn't offer any names up, he seems to be unable to agree to anything else, leaving me in the same position as I was before, not feeling certain/passionate about this name but having no other options.
I am rewarming to Rosalie as I get more and more kind and supportive endorsements, and many rather passionate responses about how lovely it is. Still, I so very much wish I could have named her one of my true loves. At least I got Saoirse, Schuyler, and Felix all of which were #1 or #2 for me at the time.
As I mentioned- I have suffered mild name regret with most of my children and then managed to come back around to loving the name. the big difference with the others was I really loved the initial choices, but thought the second choices might be better whenever i hit stumbling blocks of pronunciation, etc. and started to second-guess myself. With this name, Rosalie, I am just not feeling the love right now. It's cute, I like it alright, but not dazzling the way Electra or Sapphira would be to me. I don't feel the same way I did about it 7 weeks ago.
It seems like my husband is NOT going to entertain anything, if 29 names don't have any redeeming qualities-it seems he is pretty set on staying intractable, as I suspected. SO I feel like I am in a quandary as my only other option now is Violet. I am thinking if I can manage to call her both names at once that will fill a bit of the hole, and get me over the hump,(either hormonal or permanent), as you did with Anna Caroline.
This message was edited 4/3/2012, 9:15 PM
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