How many people have associations of a trashy/stripper image with this name? I do understand the biblical connotations to be negative, but never thought that they were nearly as strong as Jezebel
, sort of more tantamount to calling your child Lorelei
. Considering its current popularity (in the 180s) it seems others are using it with regularity.
I was calling my DD this briefly, and was really content that it seemed to fit. Then my mother immediately began to bash it. That was followed by a good friend telling me she thought I had "stolen" a name of one of her children: that it was basically a trashy form of her 8 yo daughter's name Lila
, just with a tacky Dee
sound stuck in front (she cited that P Diddy named his twins D'Lila and Jessie James
) and that it would bother her every time she saw me if used it...Needless to say I am questioning this whole friendship at the moment, as I never meant to steal anyone's name and feel very misjudged (as I personally get a different feel/association from Delilah
I alone was not concerned with any of this enough to quit using it, but now, a name that my DH and I BOTH liked, is, in his mind, no longer an option, too much baggage/trouble, etc. he just thinks it is not something he wants for his daughter and wants to move on.
Regardless of whether or not we use it, are these associations shared by lots of people? I know it's a "GP" for people,but really how guilty would you feel using it? I thought it was a spunky name with a nice sound and didn't mind the Biblical bad girl stuff. DH claims there is no revisiting it now, but I can't help but bring up the argument that the puritans used this, and I see it as a legitimate option. But if it is truly a cruel thing to do to a child, I wouldn't want to "curse her" with a name. Even from a purely academic angle, I'd like some feedback. TIA