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Loving a person who has a name that I dislike will not make me dislike the name any less. My experience with this is with the names of my older sister's two children, Heather and Jaime, pronounced JAY-mee, just like Jamie. Heather is a name that I just don't like. I don't mind Jamie, spelled that way, as a nickname for a little boy whose real name is James, but I really don't like it as a full name and particularly not spelled that way.

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I love both my niece and my nephew but that hasn't made me like their names any more.

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I guess my mother was like your sister-in-law imagines your mother to be. My mother always said she liked the name Heather, yet I always felt that it wasn't a name she would have liked at all if it hadn't been her granddaughter's name. And then when I was pregnant with my daughter, and told my mother that if it was a girl I planned to name her Victoria, my mother had a negative reaction. Namely, she stuck her tongue out. I laughed and said, "If it's a girl and I name her Victoria, you'll say you like it." She said, "Yes, I will, because then it will be your baby's name and that will make me like it."