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Re: No no no no
I've had my married name for thirty-four years now, which is fourteen years longer than I ever had my maiden name, and I still don't feel that it says "me" the way that my maiden name did. Now that you mention it, and I've examined how I really feel, I do feel that the name "belongs" much more to my husband and my children than it does to me.
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I've wondered whether the fact that I am a teacher and so have always had students call me by Mrs Lastname makes a difference. I was still in school while I was single/engaged and so have only used my married name in my profession. Maybe that contributes to feeling like it is me. Does your job (or do other things) mean people call you Mrs ___?
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No. I am so rarely ever called Mrs. Lastname.
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We are relatively formal, where I live.Just yesterday, I happened to meet my son's mother-in-law, and her sister, at the grocery store. I hadn't met this sister before, so son's MIL introduced me as "Mme.A."Sometimes my son's MIL and I first-name each other, but more usually, I'd call her Mme. Jacqueline (her first name), and she calls me Mme.Jean.(should add, she is the nicest of women, and fond of my son, as he is of her.)
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It must be a difference between Canadians and Americans. I can't imagine Americans doing that. Even my friends' children didn't call me Mrs. Lastname. They called me Miss Janice.
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Well, Canada is a big country, and I only know well the particular corner that I've lived in, for most of my married life. So, I can't speak for the whole country! :-)
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