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Re: the couple in Peoria ...
Honestly, I think the main reason that I can't even grasp the concept of asking permission is because I can't wrap my mind around why, for what reason, anyone would object anyway. The only reason I've ever seen cited is that the possible honoree doesn't like his or own name. (And as I've mentioned several times, my mother hated her name and I knew that.) Uh, well, okay, but it's not your kid. The parents love it, or they like it, or they're neutral on it but they want to use it to honor you, or they hate it but that doesn't matter to them if it's a middle name because they want to honor you. And I can't even come up with any other reason anyone would object. It would just seem so selfish to me to say "No" to that request.
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in Bex's grandfather's case ...He had a birth name that he didn't know about till he was grown, and a name he was always called and knew himself as. She says there's a long story involved with how he came to be named so differently on the birth certificate and in actual practivce. It may well be a painful or embarrassing story, and that ought to be taken into account. Of course he's gone now and maybe the story doesn't mean so much to his son/Bex's father, but it still bears cconsideration; it's easy to imagine why he might be called a different last name than is on his records, but the reasons behind him not being called by his official first name except on the birth certificate are a bit murkier and compelling.

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Yeah, but I was just speaking generally.
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