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If I liked a name, but only liked it with a pronunciation that differed from the way the majority of people in my area would assume it was pronounced, I'd avoid it altogether.

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Even if I liked a name that had two equally accepted pronunciations, but I only liked one, I'd avoid it. I went to school with a Helena. Helena is a name that I have never been sure how to pronounce. I asked this Helena how she pronounced her name, and she said, "He-LANE-a." So that's what I called her. But some people referred to her as "HEL-en-a." Just a pain in the patootie, and it would bother me if I wanted a "He-LANE-a" and half the time she was called "HEL-en-a".

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I also believe that a name should be avoided altogether if one dislikes any nickname for it. I saw how my mother-in-law was annoyed when her little boy Jamie decided he wanted to be called Jim. My daughter's name is Victoria nn Torrie, however, I do not dislike Vicky at all and if I had, I would have decided against the name. I was way more bothered when she decided at one point to spell her nickname Tori than I would have been by her deciding to go by Vicky.