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Post deleted. I think i got the answer I needed.
This message was edited 2/14/2015, 2:19 PM
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In my opinion, what's done is done in this case. The baby has been named and the time for fighting for another name is over. There were months where you two could have come together to find the perfect name, and unfortunately there was miscommunication and now you're unhappy. I feel for you and I'm sorry that you feel this way about your son's name, but it is his name now. I feel like changing his name after settling on Joseph would hurt your husband and make the situation worse-- you should have stood up for yourself to begin with.
I'm not here to rub salt in the wound. We all have our weak moments and honestly if I had just given birth I wouldn't want to fight either. Part of me gets the feeling that the unhappiness is stemming from more than the name and right now you're pouring a lot of your focus into one negative.
You need to take some time to focus on you (as much as you can with three kids) and to find how to be happy again. Clear communication with the husband may help! It's easy to feel overwhelmed but ultimately your health and happiness is more important for you and your family than you think.
To conclude, I think Joseph is a lovely name with wonderful history. There's a reason it's well-liked! Try out some nicknames, see how he grows into it. Like Mirfak said, he may even like his middle name better down the road or change his name entirely.
I'm not here to rub salt in the wound. We all have our weak moments and honestly if I had just given birth I wouldn't want to fight either. Part of me gets the feeling that the unhappiness is stemming from more than the name and right now you're pouring a lot of your focus into one negative.
You need to take some time to focus on you (as much as you can with three kids) and to find how to be happy again. Clear communication with the husband may help! It's easy to feel overwhelmed but ultimately your health and happiness is more important for you and your family than you think.
To conclude, I think Joseph is a lovely name with wonderful history. There's a reason it's well-liked! Try out some nicknames, see how he grows into it. Like Mirfak said, he may even like his middle name better down the road or change his name entirely.
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I think you're right. Thank you.
I'm deleting my original post.
I think you're right. Thank you.
I'm deleting my original post.
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This message was edited 2/14/2015, 5:29 PM
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Ah, you deleted your post! I was just going to say, I think it's weird that you know people who renamed themselves at the age of five, with their parents going along with it. I can't imagine my parents being cool with that, at all . Especially if I was so little. Did they really just go by new names for the rest of their lives?
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Well I am only thinking of one who said he did it that young ... the others I do not know when they changed their names to something self-chosen, but it was before they left home.
The most recent one I met was awesome: a guy who decided at age 5 (or so he said) that he should be called Mercury (inspired by the god, and the element), and has been ever since. There was no legal name change - it just stuck.
I bet the parents didn't take it very seriously - they probably just humored him, and didn't realize that it was ever going to replace the name they gave.
(edit: Roman god, not Greek. ha)
The most recent one I met was awesome: a guy who decided at age 5 (or so he said) that he should be called Mercury (inspired by the god, and the element), and has been ever since. There was no legal name change - it just stuck.
I bet the parents didn't take it very seriously - they probably just humored him, and didn't realize that it was ever going to replace the name they gave.
(edit: Roman god, not Greek. ha)
This message was edited 2/14/2015, 7:32 PM
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I don't think he was trying to take advantage of me. I think i had a problem with asserting myself. He thought I liked it. I was trying to like if because he did. But now I don't like it at all.
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Oh yuck, this kind of misunderstanding always happens. Sorry, that is not what I meant.
I was trying to give you a perspective that makes the name situation seem less crucial and unsolvable.
I guess I am saying don't worry about changing it, but I don't think there's any reason you can't negotiate with your husband to call him something else, by explaining your feelings.
I'm editing out my message because you did so, and I assume you did because you thought it got too personal. Feel free to repost your topic with less detail if you still want comments from other people. =)
I was trying to give you a perspective that makes the name situation seem less crucial and unsolvable.
I guess I am saying don't worry about changing it, but I don't think there's any reason you can't negotiate with your husband to call him something else, by explaining your feelings.
I'm editing out my message because you did so, and I assume you did because you thought it got too personal. Feel free to repost your topic with less detail if you still want comments from other people. =)
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