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This kind of threatening to cut off happens only in very traditional Greek families. I have serveral family members who are Greek and live in Greece - and none of them named their children after family. In fact, a couple of them didn't even use Greek names!
Someone else posted about this article a few days ago.
I said then that I thought it was silly because the parents are refusing to compromise. When you marry into a different culture or ethnicity than your own - compromise is a given. Even if middle names are not customary, that doesn't mean that one parent gets to claim tradition over the other parent.
If these parents cannot compromise to using both names, or agree together to use one or the other... then they need to look for a whole new name.
Asking the internet to decide is childish and silly.
If it helps, my daughter has Filipino, Italian and American heritage. My parents insisted on several names to honor family (they are from Italy)... my husband wanted a Tagalog name that represents us (he is from Philippines)... and I just wanted a name that was meaningful and would work well in the States, where we live.
She ended up with three names, the first our choice and meaningful, the second Tagalog and the third an Italian family name. See? Compromise on all sides. It works.
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"How wonderful it is that no one need wait a single moment before starting to improve upon the world." -Ann Frank
Mama to my "bright star" Clarisse Bituin and Wife to Julius. Mahal na mahal from our little family to yours!
Someone else posted about this article a few days ago.
I said then that I thought it was silly because the parents are refusing to compromise. When you marry into a different culture or ethnicity than your own - compromise is a given. Even if middle names are not customary, that doesn't mean that one parent gets to claim tradition over the other parent.
If these parents cannot compromise to using both names, or agree together to use one or the other... then they need to look for a whole new name.
Asking the internet to decide is childish and silly.
If it helps, my daughter has Filipino, Italian and American heritage. My parents insisted on several names to honor family (they are from Italy)... my husband wanted a Tagalog name that represents us (he is from Philippines)... and I just wanted a name that was meaningful and would work well in the States, where we live.
She ended up with three names, the first our choice and meaningful, the second Tagalog and the third an Italian family name. See? Compromise on all sides. It works.
______________________________________________
"How wonderful it is that no one need wait a single moment before starting to improve upon the world." -Ann Frank
Mama to my "bright star" Clarisse Bituin and Wife to Julius. Mahal na mahal from our little family to yours!
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