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Why do you even care?

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Just name your kids whatever you want.

don't worry!

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You can totally use Cole and Adrian. Aven and Adrian aren't that similar at all, just that they have an A and an ending 'n' sound. As for Cole, it's his middle name (which usually are used very rarely in reality unless they're going by their middle name). Plus, it's your cousin. It's not like your sibling named her/his kid Cole fn which would be pretty off-limits then. Also, since you're not even having a child at the moment, by the time you do, his middle name won't be of much consequence. :)

I think you can still use it. I have a sister named Patricia and a first cousin named Patricia.

Late to this thread, but I came to suggest a similar name - Cove. I'm sorry about what's happened. That sucks. Hey, if you love it for a future child, use it no matter what. You'll make the right choice. :-)

If it helps, I have a cousin with both my first name as their first name, which is actually kind of unusual, and a cousin with my middle name as their first name. No one really cares.

WDYT about the name Cole?

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This message was edited 11/19/2015, 2:23 PM

You can still use Cole! Absolutely. I know cousins both named the same, and my cousin has my name (although she goes by her mn). It's really fine, I promise.

In your situation, I would still use both names, because those relatives are not too closely related. If a sibling had used those names, I could understand your concern.

Aren't you pretty young? I don't care for the names that I loved when I started posting on BtN anymore (I was 15 then, 23 now). Your taste could change. Like CruelPumps said, you might not have a son. Or maybe your future spouse will hate the name Cole. This is far from devastating news.

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But to answer the question, can you use it? Well, does it BOTHER you that it's already been used by a relative? If yes, don't use it. If no, use it.

Sorry, but I fail to see the problem.
Adrian and Aven are not close. And are you really serious about Cole? It's his damn middle name. Who cares? I would care if it were your niece or nephew, but it's your cousin's son. Get over it and use it anyway.

Well, one Adrian and Aven are not too similar imo. Not even close. Maybe something like Simeon and Simone would be... but Adrian and Aven only start and end with the same letter. They have nothing else in common.

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Also - you can totally still use Cole.

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I have a cousin named Andrea and a cousin named Andrew. No one even batted an eye when Andrea was born a couple years after Andrew. They go by Andy and Andi. It's literally never been a problem.

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I used to get all bent out of shape if someone used a name I planned to use (I nearly disowned a sister when she named her cat our top choice - hopefully it was pregnancy hormones!). Now, I have decided that it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.

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You might choose a name that no one has ever used in 50 years, and then the next door neighbor uses it.

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So, while I understand your situation and how you feel because I have been there, it eventually came to grips with the fact that using a name that someone you know has used, even in variation, it not only ok and acceptable, it is common.

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Plus.... middle versus first name is a huge game changer, since people rarely go by their middle name enough to get confused with someone else. Cole and Adrian are still usable.

The new princess Charlotte Elizabeth Diana has literally almost the exact same name as William's two-year-old cousin, Charlotte Diana. If the royals and do it, so can you.

LOL.(

I don't want to be harsh, but honestly... Just get over it. It's his middle name. You don't see them very often. You're not even pregnant. You may change your mind about Cole before you get pregnant, you may never have a boy. The universe hates you because this happened? My god, I don't think you've ever had any real problems in life.

You seem a bit confused. First your life has been ruined, and then in the next paragraph you 'really don't care honestly'. So, which is it? And why the big stink? If your relatives are that peculiar, why worry?

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Where I live, it was traditional for centuries to name the first son after the paternal grandfather, second son after maternal grandmother, daughters same kind of thing, so clearly nicknames were in order at family gatherings. Nobody thought anything of it; and this was back when there were very few names in circulation compared to today.

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If it was me, I'd start worrying when I was actually pregnant and knew the child's sex. Not now.

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But, if you enjoy worrying (and why not?), have fantasy twin boys, name them Adrian and Nicholas, and tell yourself endless stories about them when you're trying to fall asleep. By the time you're actually giving birth, you'll probably be heartily sick of both names and ready to consider anything from Osbert to Zebedee.

Unless you are really close to your cousins, which it does not sound like you are, it is not that big of a problem. If your child and your cousins child shared the same first name and were likely to be playmates then it might be an issue, but as it is it should be fine if you used Cole. It is not unusual for names to be repeated in families, so it is unlikely that your aunt will be upset that her grandson middle name and great nephew's first name are the same. If anything wouldn't your cousin and his significant other be flattered that you appreciate the sound of a name that they also love? Honestly though, your child and your cousins child will be second cousins. How well do you know your second cousins? I don't even know the first names of some of my second cousins let alone their middle names. There is nothing wrong with using Cole if that is the name your really want to use.

I know I exactly how you feel about having your heart so set on a name that not even a close suggestion woul cut it. I can't even choose a different spelling variant of the names I love because I feel it's just not the same. In the womans defense though, your aunt probably didn't tell her Cloe was one of your favorites. I honestly think you can still use Cole, my cousins middle name is Leo and I adore the name Leo and always had, it's still going to be one of my final choice names for when I have kids (that is if I'm blessed with a boy). Adrian is also DEFINITELY usable. I don't think Adrian and Aven are too alike AT ALL. All in all, I can assure you Cole and Adrian are still usable, at least in my opinion. Best of luck. Make sure you keep your names to yourself in the future, there's some stingy name stealers out there!