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I think you know how I feel about unwanted nicknames ;)

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My SO will slip in a "Mady" every once in awhile on accident and then quickly add "-son" because he knows I hate it. I highly doubt that makes him feel sad or lonely (I'm sure you don't mean that literally) But it does makes me feel happy to know he's consistently considering my feelings. Actually it's forced he and my friends to come of with more creative, MORE personal nicknames, and of their own volition. Shortening names is a sign of affection, sure, but not using a NN they don't like is also a sign of respect.

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My parents never asked I NOT be called Mady, in fact it's a name my aunts would, and still call me occasionally, and I reserve it for them because I've never felt like a Mady and have never personally chosen to go by it. Which is also why I'd advise against using a name with a NN you can't stand, because your child may choose to go by it anyway, ESPECIALLY if they know you hate it and want to be rebellious. Not being jazzed about it is one thing but actively hating it is another, although I suspect that the hate would lessen once it's on your kid.

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