Re: question - what is the difference between feminine and frilly?
in reply to a message by darrengregory
I agree generally with what others have said in regards to frilly vs. feminine. They're not really interchangeable IMO, and a name can be feminine and not frilly.
To answer your second question, it likely depends on the context of how "feminine" is used. I see it used in one of three general contexts:
1. Sometimes I see people responding to a name that can be used among both males and females, such as Carmen, Harper, or Avery. Because these names are much more typically used among females (in 2016, at least), someone might say "This name is feminine to me." I don't really see a problem with this; it's just responding to a societal likelihood about a name.
2. Sometimes I see people responding to a name that is exclusively used for males, but has "soft" features, such as Julian or Asa. This is a little bit muddier. It might be someone's rightful opinion that Asa sounds like a girl's name, or that Julian sounds "too effeminate" for a boy, but is that a reason to dislike it? Maybe! Not sure! (In my opinion it is not.)
3. Sometimes I see people responding to a name that is frilly or long, like Isabella or Georgiana, and they say something like "I don't like this name because it's too feminine." This is weird to me, but I think maybe sometimes they aren't expressing themselves with the best terminology. I don't think it's that people dislike feminine names as a whole (maybe some do, idk), but that they dislike frilly names and are just throwing an umbrella term to describe them.
A lot of assumptions on my part here, lol, but I don't think I'm that far out of line.
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"We are all horrible and wonderful and figuring it out." - Harris Wittels
To answer your second question, it likely depends on the context of how "feminine" is used. I see it used in one of three general contexts:
1. Sometimes I see people responding to a name that can be used among both males and females, such as Carmen, Harper, or Avery. Because these names are much more typically used among females (in 2016, at least), someone might say "This name is feminine to me." I don't really see a problem with this; it's just responding to a societal likelihood about a name.
2. Sometimes I see people responding to a name that is exclusively used for males, but has "soft" features, such as Julian or Asa. This is a little bit muddier. It might be someone's rightful opinion that Asa sounds like a girl's name, or that Julian sounds "too effeminate" for a boy, but is that a reason to dislike it? Maybe! Not sure! (In my opinion it is not.)
3. Sometimes I see people responding to a name that is frilly or long, like Isabella or Georgiana, and they say something like "I don't like this name because it's too feminine." This is weird to me, but I think maybe sometimes they aren't expressing themselves with the best terminology. I don't think it's that people dislike feminine names as a whole (maybe some do, idk), but that they dislike frilly names and are just throwing an umbrella term to describe them.
A lot of assumptions on my part here, lol, but I don't think I'm that far out of line.
"We are all horrible and wonderful and figuring it out." - Harris Wittels
This message was edited 10/17/2016, 8:41 AM