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HelpRe: Antonia doesn't have to be Toni (carry it on)
in reply to a message by RDNZL
Oh, I don't know. My sister's first husband used to call me Janno, which I hated, but I knew he meant it as an endearment.
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It totally depends on your relationship with the person!
If they're someone you trust isn't trying to dominate you by creating fake familiarity, but is really just being friendly, it's totally prissy to refuse their nickname. But if they're someone you just know is doing it to score a point somehow, it's intolerable.
If they're someone you trust isn't trying to dominate you by creating fake familiarity, but is really just being friendly, it's totally prissy to refuse their nickname. But if they're someone you just know is doing it to score a point somehow, it's intolerable.
This message was edited 4/22/2018, 10:22 AM
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This message was edited 4/22/2018, 2:53 PM
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To me, there is a difference between a silly nickname, and a shortened version of a full name that they just don't care for. When I posted, I was thinking more of the latter. Insisting on that when someone clearly doesn't like it is just plain weird.
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Isn't it sad, queenv, that when one considers an action to be endearing, and the person unto whom the action is committed, considers it offensive, implying "no means no"; well, actually, this is a strain of logic that it were better not carry on, if you know what I mean...
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I'm thinking of a real life example. I have a friend named James, and whenever anyone calls him Jim, he ignores them until they call him James, again. His father went by Jim, and he doesn't have the best relationship with his father, so he hates being called Jim. Unfortunately, a lot of people call him that without asking.
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