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HelpPLEASE HELP!!!! lachlan because I love it, or Liam because we both like it
My husband and I have finally narrowed down what we’re naming our son in January. He finally got on bored with my FAVORITE name, Lachlan.
I love it because of its Celtic roots, it’s meaning, the way the name flows with our other two boys names, and it’s not popular at all being in the 600s, but also not unheard of.
Liam is a name that I definintley do like a lot. It also has Celtic roots and If I hear it on another kid I always think that it’s a nice name.
However, I work in childcare, so I hear kids names ALL the time. It’s hard for me to find a name that has no accociation already. I have never met anyone with the name Lachlan but I know lots of little Liam’s.
Liam is also an important family name for my husband. His papas name is William, and his great grandfathers name was Liam. He didn’t know his great grandfather but it means a lot to his granny to use it. And his papa basically was his only father figure and raised him.
I know one way or the other I’ll have regrets. If I go with liam, I’ll regret not using my favorite name that I really truly love the most. I’d regret literally using the NUMBER ONE name and having no uniqueness.
If I go with Lachlan, id regret wasting a great opportunity to honor people that really matter to my husband. Using family names is very important.
Additionally, I should say he’s had two boys from a previous marriage and he got to name both of them. However this is my first pregnancy and have never been able to pick out names before. Their names are Elijah Cole and Rylee James. (Not really names I would have picked but not bad).
The middle name we have chosen for either Lachlan or Liam is David. David is my fathers first name and also my husbands middle name.
Because I work in childcare and I really have heard it all, it honestly DOES matter to me that when I introduce him to people, it’s a name they haven’t heard on three other kids that day.
I am so stuck and I need help!!!! Every time I think I’ve made a decision something sways me the other way.
I also like that Lachlan has a nickname. Lock. Which I think is so cool I love that it has a nickname that is gona be so cool when he’s older if he likes it. Liam doesn’t have a good nickname like that.
I should also say that we HAVE considered just using all three names. Lachlan David Liam (one syllable last name). It doesn’t flow very well but it does just about solve our problem.
PLEASE PLEASE help us
I love it because of its Celtic roots, it’s meaning, the way the name flows with our other two boys names, and it’s not popular at all being in the 600s, but also not unheard of.
Liam is a name that I definintley do like a lot. It also has Celtic roots and If I hear it on another kid I always think that it’s a nice name.
However, I work in childcare, so I hear kids names ALL the time. It’s hard for me to find a name that has no accociation already. I have never met anyone with the name Lachlan but I know lots of little Liam’s.
Liam is also an important family name for my husband. His papas name is William, and his great grandfathers name was Liam. He didn’t know his great grandfather but it means a lot to his granny to use it. And his papa basically was his only father figure and raised him.
I know one way or the other I’ll have regrets. If I go with liam, I’ll regret not using my favorite name that I really truly love the most. I’d regret literally using the NUMBER ONE name and having no uniqueness.
If I go with Lachlan, id regret wasting a great opportunity to honor people that really matter to my husband. Using family names is very important.
Additionally, I should say he’s had two boys from a previous marriage and he got to name both of them. However this is my first pregnancy and have never been able to pick out names before. Their names are Elijah Cole and Rylee James. (Not really names I would have picked but not bad).
The middle name we have chosen for either Lachlan or Liam is David. David is my fathers first name and also my husbands middle name.
Because I work in childcare and I really have heard it all, it honestly DOES matter to me that when I introduce him to people, it’s a name they haven’t heard on three other kids that day.
I am so stuck and I need help!!!! Every time I think I’ve made a decision something sways me the other way.
I also like that Lachlan has a nickname. Lock. Which I think is so cool I love that it has a nickname that is gona be so cool when he’s older if he likes it. Liam doesn’t have a good nickname like that.
I should also say that we HAVE considered just using all three names. Lachlan David Liam (one syllable last name). It doesn’t flow very well but it does just about solve our problem.
PLEASE PLEASE help us
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I would use Lachlan as the first name because you love it. Your husband had two other sons and chose not to use William or Liam for either one. If you want to use Liam or William as a middle name then go for it, but I wouldn’t feel pressured because he didn’t prioritize it for any of his other kids. How about Lachlan Liam or Lachlan William David?
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I typically would vote for Liam but I believe Lachlan fits in better. It sounds better with Elijah & Rylee (Liam would be too many 'ee' sounds)
Btw I LOVE the name Cole (: I plan to use it for a son someday (Of course if I'm blessed with a boy. Hopefully) ♥☆♥☆♥☆♥☆♥☆
Elijah Cole, Rylee James & Lachlan David
Btw I LOVE the name Cole (: I plan to use it for a son someday (Of course if I'm blessed with a boy. Hopefully) ♥☆♥☆♥☆♥☆♥☆
Elijah Cole, Rylee James & Lachlan David
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US perspective (I don't know where you live so the popularity stuff might be different):
I love Lachlan! I like Liam, but not as much as I used to because I think it got too popular in the recent past. I started liking Lachlan and Liam around the same time, but then Liam took off and Lachlan didn't.
Lachlan David and Liam David are both good, but I think Lachlan David sounds better and more interesting. Liam goes better with the names of his kids, but I don't think it's too important to match the name style of half siblings. (Maybe it depends on their ages and whether they'll be spending a lot of time together. My half siblings were old enough that they never really lived with me, so it wasn't like the names had to go together as a set.)
What about Lachlan William or Lachlan David William? You could use the family name and he could use Liam as a nickname if he wanted. But David is already a family name and it makes more sense to use it since it's on both sides.
TL;DR my vote is for Lachlan, but Liam isn't bad at all.
I love Lachlan! I like Liam, but not as much as I used to because I think it got too popular in the recent past. I started liking Lachlan and Liam around the same time, but then Liam took off and Lachlan didn't.
Lachlan David and Liam David are both good, but I think Lachlan David sounds better and more interesting. Liam goes better with the names of his kids, but I don't think it's too important to match the name style of half siblings. (Maybe it depends on their ages and whether they'll be spending a lot of time together. My half siblings were old enough that they never really lived with me, so it wasn't like the names had to go together as a set.)
What about Lachlan William or Lachlan David William? You could use the family name and he could use Liam as a nickname if he wanted. But David is already a family name and it makes more sense to use it since it's on both sides.
TL;DR my vote is for Lachlan, but Liam isn't bad at all.
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Thank you so much for your awesome feedback! As far as siblings go they are biologically his, however I’m the only mom they’ve known. They will be full time brothers, and don’t even know he’s their half brother
This message was edited 9/23/2018, 6:52 PM
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I agree. Use all three names in the combo. I adore Liam, and if it honors your husband's family, then you can use it as one of the middle names.
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Before you do anything else, take other people's reaction to the name's popularity off the table. It honestly is not important that they have met three other Liams. If it bothers you because you know a lot of Liams, fair enough, that's a reasonable objection; but other people don't care that much if they've met other Liams; they might think "How original" but they aren't going to say it out loud so you're none the wiser.
My solution is to name him William Lachlan or William David, and call him Liam; Liam is originally an Irish nn for William, after all. He'll either keep on being Liam, or as he gets older he'll end up as Will or Billy or Lock (which really isn't that great a nn) or Dave, or W.D. or any number of nns depending on his personality and circumstances. Who knows? You may take one look at him and think "This is not a Liam at all, let's call him WIll."
And you'll be calling him a name you both like, and maybe you use your favorite for his middle name, but you both will have compromised.
I'd also recommend remembering that naming kids isn't a competition about how many relatives you name after or whose side of the family gets named after more or even who gets to make more decisions. The bottom line is you both will have to give up a little ground, and the final name should be one you BOTH like, even if BOTH of you don't LOVE it. I'm not recommending the extra middle name for that reason: it just ups the competitive streak that's going on, and which is the main source of your trouble right now.
My solution is to name him William Lachlan or William David, and call him Liam; Liam is originally an Irish nn for William, after all. He'll either keep on being Liam, or as he gets older he'll end up as Will or Billy or Lock (which really isn't that great a nn) or Dave, or W.D. or any number of nns depending on his personality and circumstances. Who knows? You may take one look at him and think "This is not a Liam at all, let's call him WIll."
And you'll be calling him a name you both like, and maybe you use your favorite for his middle name, but you both will have compromised.
I'd also recommend remembering that naming kids isn't a competition about how many relatives you name after or whose side of the family gets named after more or even who gets to make more decisions. The bottom line is you both will have to give up a little ground, and the final name should be one you BOTH like, even if BOTH of you don't LOVE it. I'm not recommending the extra middle name for that reason: it just ups the competitive streak that's going on, and which is the main source of your trouble right now.
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Use all three names. They will seldom be used out loud, so the flow isn't an issue, and it solves all your problems.
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I wold go for Lachlan David Liam or better yet Lachlan William David bc it flows better than the first option and it honours just as much as Liam.
If he really can't get on board with Lachlan, I'd try starting over and trying to find new names. I can understand you've got a bit more 'right' to name him bc he's your first, but the father still defintely has a veto vote even if it'd be his 10th son.
I personally wouldn't contemplate a name when I know already several kids with the same name. If I ever met someone with that name or vaguely know them it's okay, but in your shoes I'd defintely move Liam to the MN spot.
If he really can't get on board with Lachlan, I'd try starting over and trying to find new names. I can understand you've got a bit more 'right' to name him bc he's your first, but the father still defintely has a veto vote even if it'd be his 10th son.
I personally wouldn't contemplate a name when I know already several kids with the same name. If I ever met someone with that name or vaguely know them it's okay, but in your shoes I'd defintely move Liam to the MN spot.
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Maybe it will be easier if you just wait until he's born? I totally get wanting to have a name picked out before then, but it seems like you really like both names and waiting to see what/who he looks like might ba able to help that final decision. Otherwise I think it's a good idea to use Liam/William as a second MN.
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