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My sister and I have honoring names (I post with mine). So do my parents and most of their siblings. I'd say it's traditional in my family, though more common for boys.

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I have a vague uneasy feeling about the idea of giving a kid exactly the same name as a family member: as if it wouldn't be my prerogative to give away some else's name, so me doing so would be bad luck; or, I feel like it doesn't give the kid enough space to be their own person (as if it'd be me trying to project an identity onto them that isn't theirs, because in my mind the name'd already belong to someone else? idk). Also, on some level, it feels like plagiarism to me, I guess.

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I like the idea of honoring a memory (through meaning) or having some connecting link (like a similar sound maybe?) in a name, but I'd do it in a more distant way.

This message was edited 3/22/2019, 9:04 AM