Name stealing?
My grandmother passed away about 4 years ago. Recently, a cousin of mine decided to name her daughter after her. I too would like to use this name, but I do not want to be rude. We come from a very large family and it is unlikely our children would spend much time together, but I'm afraid it would hurt feelings. Would it be inappropriate to give my daughter the same name as the family matriarch, or is it off limits now?
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this is for the opinion board
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It couldn't hurt to ask. Perhaps you could find a compromise like using the name for your daughter's middle name or one of them going by a nickname... for example Margaret and Meg?
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i would follow what Lilith said. but i have something to add: approach her with a list of names that she may want to use? and catch her in a good mood! that always help. and when she has time to talk and listen.Yah! mike c. advice board!!!
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"Dear Mike C."BtN should have an advice column! *_*Try talking to her! If she has no problem with it then there is none, and if she does have a problem then you'd best find what it is and see if you agree. To paraphrase the many advice colums I peruse when bored, show her what you've just written.Oh yeah . . . this should probably go on the opinions board.One weird thing about advice columns is the aliases . . . there are all these letters saying, "My daughter 'Belldandy'" or "I have a friend I'll call 'Zork'" . . . I fear them.
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