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Subject: Re: Ask a question
Author: Siân   (Authenticated as Sharley)
Date: January 28, 2013 at 8:46:06 PM
Reply to: Re: Ask a question by Ajay
If my friend is gay and showing me affection, I'll let him get further than I would a straight man and I'd play back just as much. However, how far I would tease, tickle, hug a straight guy usually depends directly upon whether or not he has a girlfriend/wife/etc that would care if I did these things. With a gay guy, you're more at liberty to get away with things because everyone knows it's just playful. With a straight guy, there's always a line you've got to be careful not to cross.

Reversed, I wouldn't care how my bf/husband/etc acted toward a lesbian woman. Should she be bisexual, it would change matters. Should there be any chance that she liked men, my opinion would change because now circumstances have changed and there could be potential that she flirts back and I don't want any mixed signals going on there. I want everyone to be on the same playing field when it comes to the teasing, hugging, etc. With a lesbian, it wouldn't bother me and if for some reason I found that I was bothered by it, I would check myself first before approaching him with it because chances are, it's a personal problem. Not to mention, if I thought it was okay for me to flirt with gay men, but not okay for him to flirt with lesbian women, I'd have a major double standard going on there and that in itself would need to be reevaluated.


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