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Subject: Re: Ask a question
Author: Niiv   (Authenticated as Niiv)
Date: January 29, 2013 at 2:29:18 AM
Reply to: Re: Ask a question by Ajay
First of all, I'm a straight female, and have straight male friends with whom I have no physical attraction. At all. If you put us in a room alone, naked, we'd probably play rock paper scissors, not have sex. And from what I can tell, it's pretty mutual, so it's not likely that we would turn each other on with non-sexual things like kisses on the cheeks or hugging.

So, to answer your question, I wouldn't (and don't) mind a (straight or gay) male or female friend touching me in a clearly non-sexual way, and would (and do) kiss and hug them regardless of their gender preference. Simply because we all know we're not attracted to each other in that way. Ditto to my hypothetical husband doing the same.

I'm not sure what you're asking in the third question, but at least for me, attraction is a complicated thing. It's not simply appearance or gender, but a mixture of personality traits, looks and self-presentation that I'm attracted to. And most of the time, this happens to be found in a lean, sharpely-dressed, well educated, slightly cynical but emotionally healthy male. :-P

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