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Hi Gia ,I am sorry to hear you ended up scared after what was supposed to be something nice. As you say you are not sure you will be over Ryan for awhile, which is very understandable. There are also things in life, which we never get over, but rather learn to live with.
I am not sure if Ryan leaving you is one such thing. That I hope not.
But perhaps you moved too fast going out with another man while Ryan is still on the loose in your heart, so to speak.
With a child to take care of and being pregnant and feeling sadness over your man, through more than five years, leaving you I understand very well that you at times need to get a little away from it all.But perhaps you should spent such time away from it all together with people you already know, who do not want something from you all the time and who take a yes for a yes and a no for a no.At least until your heart is in a more serene state.Sincerely,
Selwyn
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GiaPicture my right hand tangled in your hair as my open left hand aquaints itself with your mouth (after I torture the schwantz using #2 fishhooks and Betadine).Number 1: IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT that schwantz invaded your space. If I'm reading this correctly, you didn't invite him to do what he did in the first place and you reitterated that you wanted him to leave you alone. He was almost, but not quite, guilty of sexual assault.Number 2: Legally, the moment you said "No" to him, he was guilty of assault. You could've called the police. I think you should contact your local Women's Crisis Line and tell someone who has the resources at his/her fingertips about what happened and ask what you could/should do. They even have the telephone numbers of other places you can go to for long-term assistance.I, too, am a survivor of criminal assaults (luckily, none of the attempteds were successful, but I'm still a bit leary of physically going around with members of the male gender except in professional situations or in groups of eight or more).Now, take care of both yourself and your little ones and keep in mind that, the next time you see the schwantz, get away from him by joining a group of people or by turning around. Better yet, give him the proverbial finger and take control of the whole situation, even if it may make you feel that you're creating an unwarranted scene.Phyllis (aka Sidhe Uaine or Gaia Euphoria)
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AddendumGiaIf you ever have any more trouble from that schwantz, cause a scene. Scream out a name (Nanaea springs to mind, or Selwyn , or Pavlos . Any but the one he answers to).And remember, you caused him to attack you just as much as our favorite Dane masterminded the attack on the WTC, the Pentagon & southwestern PA. (My apologies to Selwyn for taking his name in vain).Phyllis (aka Sidhe Uaine or Gaia Euphoria)
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Thanks Selwyn , I told him right away I wasnt going to get involved with a guy right now! I just wanted out! But I guess it was my own fault, but I didnt expect him to be so umm.... yeah I wont say what I really want to! And about Ryan leaving me I dont think I will forgive him, but I will move on. Just not right now! Well my heart wont move on... I will go on!
Gia
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