Oops -- didn't mean to imply that your two, male family friends named "Ashley" were sissy-boys. :)
Have to ask though: Are they Southern? I can imagine the name "Ashley" being more commonly given to boys in the South than in the North -- probably because I seem to recall a male character from the novel *Gone with the Wind*.
You won't find many (if any at all) male Ashleys in New York, though. Quite a few boys named "Asher", though. ;)