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HelpRe: Would you use an honouring name?
in reply to a message by Felie
I gave my son my father's FN as his MN. My father's death was tragic but I'm not worried that the name is haunted by my father's death. It has almost nothing to do with who he was. By passing on his name, I honor my son by associating him with my father's good qualities that I loved, and I honor my memory of my father and deny that his death defined him (and also I honor my grandmother and grandfather, who chose my father's name because they liked it).
When we say my son's full name I am reminded of what I loved about my father and how I hope my son will inherit those things. And because I'm into names, I also think of my grandparents and their lives - since the name they liked is unfashionable now, lol.
Of course I do not worry about my son having the same "destiny" or flaws as my father because of the name... that would be a bit evil of me, IMHO. Everyone has misfortunes and weaknesses, but why would we remember our loved ones negatively for those things after they are gone? It might be better to forget they ever existed, than to do that. And if you're going to be superstitious and believe in magic, use it for good! To hell with fear.
At the time my son was born I wanted very much to honor my father. It is painful that he and his grandkids will never know each other, and the connection of the name feels positive. But I would be just as happy, now, if I'd given my son a name that was "new" to me. I appreciate that others would prefer to do that and I think it's also a good way to name children.
- mirfak
When we say my son's full name I am reminded of what I loved about my father and how I hope my son will inherit those things. And because I'm into names, I also think of my grandparents and their lives - since the name they liked is unfashionable now, lol.
Of course I do not worry about my son having the same "destiny" or flaws as my father because of the name... that would be a bit evil of me, IMHO. Everyone has misfortunes and weaknesses, but why would we remember our loved ones negatively for those things after they are gone? It might be better to forget they ever existed, than to do that. And if you're going to be superstitious and believe in magic, use it for good! To hell with fear.
At the time my son was born I wanted very much to honor my father. It is painful that he and his grandkids will never know each other, and the connection of the name feels positive. But I would be just as happy, now, if I'd given my son a name that was "new" to me. I appreciate that others would prefer to do that and I think it's also a good way to name children.
- mirfak
This message was edited 4/27/2017, 11:06 AM
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