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Re: Rainbow
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I'm not sure if it would have a positive vibe for everybody, though. The term "rainbow baby" is often used when a healthy pregnancy and baby follows the death of a previous child. I don't think it's necessarily a reason not to use the name. Just that the term exists, so it might not make everybody smile.My Mom wouldn't let me buy anything for Theda with purple butterflies on it, and they were really trendy for baby things this year. On the maternity ward where she works, if a baby has been stillborn they hang a purple butterfly on the door. That lets any uninformed staff not to walk in all smiling and chipper, asking how mom and baby are doing. So even cute purple butterflies aren't immune from making some people sad. My husband wanted calla lilies in our wedding, and we heard "that's a death flower" from so many. I guess my long and rambling point is you can't please everybody. So use Rainbow, but know it's not 100% happy.
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Hi !!!Oh..I didn't know this.Here in Italy there is not anything as a word to describe a stillborn child (well I'm not an expert but I think it is a tabù still nowadays here)...I read in this website 'angel baby' for them but I had no idea that 'a baby born after a stillborn child' would have a specific word...So strange...and sad of course.
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