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If I were to do that, I think I'd like to use my mum's maiden name, but I can't post that because its a rare name lmao
I'm genuinely struggling to answer this because I feel like using the names of specific loved ones ...idk ... dilutes their importance ? Like I have a million George's in my family, but I only know one, but If I were to know the other George's, I'd feel the re-use of the same first name (and surname for that matter) would soften the impact of the name "George" because you have a million other Georges to consider too
another example would be my late aunty's nickname "Froggy". I'd be upset if I had to call somebody else Froggy because it takes her memory away from the name, if you get me?
So, personally, I don't think I could
(sorry I genuinely tried to answer this question)
I'm genuinely struggling to answer this because I feel like using the names of specific loved ones ...idk ... dilutes their importance ? Like I have a million George's in my family, but I only know one, but If I were to know the other George's, I'd feel the re-use of the same first name (and surname for that matter) would soften the impact of the name "George" because you have a million other Georges to consider too
another example would be my late aunty's nickname "Froggy". I'd be upset if I had to call somebody else Froggy because it takes her memory away from the name, if you get me?
So, personally, I don't think I could
(sorry I genuinely tried to answer this question)
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Not at all! I think your post hits an very interesting viewing point. I’ve never thought of it that way.
I sometimes wonder too if I named my daughter after for example my nan would it put pressure on my daughter to live “up to the name” or will it make her feel treasured?
I sometimes wonder too if I named my daughter after for example my nan would it put pressure on my daughter to live “up to the name” or will it make her feel treasured?
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To be honest, I think it would make her feel treasured. At least, coming from someone who always wished that my middle name was that of my grandma’s, Hope. I always thought it was so pretty and dainty (like my grandma was) and wished it was mine, instead of the clunky one I have.
Also, each of my boys are named after a family member. Not just random ones, but ones that are very near and dear to us. I absolutely adore my FIL, oldest son is named after him and also my father, and he loves it. He thinks it’s the awesomest thing in the world that he shares two names with his grandpas, because they’re both pretty awesome people. Two sons are named after great grandpas and uncles that have been super influential in shaping our lives, and still are very involved. They see these two on a regular basis and still remind me how “I’m named after Uncle so-and-so and I love him!!”
Youngest son is named after DH (but goes by his middle name) and loves it. Reminds his brothers that he is sooo special because he shares a name with dad.
Okay, long novel! Sorry about that. But I do think most kids would tend to enjoy the connection with someone you loved.
Also, each of my boys are named after a family member. Not just random ones, but ones that are very near and dear to us. I absolutely adore my FIL, oldest son is named after him and also my father, and he loves it. He thinks it’s the awesomest thing in the world that he shares two names with his grandpas, because they’re both pretty awesome people. Two sons are named after great grandpas and uncles that have been super influential in shaping our lives, and still are very involved. They see these two on a regular basis and still remind me how “I’m named after Uncle so-and-so and I love him!!”
Youngest son is named after DH (but goes by his middle name) and loves it. Reminds his brothers that he is sooo special because he shares a name with dad.
Okay, long novel! Sorry about that. But I do think most kids would tend to enjoy the connection with someone you loved.
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Glad you understood xD I've never truly expressed my feelings about it before and I didn't know where to begin
That's hard to say. I suppose it won't pressure her if you told her only later on that she's named after X person. I mean, how often does a grandma's name come up on conversation? It's usually "your grandma" etc so you might be able to completely avoid it until she's ready. It would be at that point where all your past conversations about your grandmother would come back and she'd know she was named after a person you loved and respected.
I suspect most children would feel treasured only when they find out a little later on, rather than from the get go
Hope that helps?
That's hard to say. I suppose it won't pressure her if you told her only later on that she's named after X person. I mean, how often does a grandma's name come up on conversation? It's usually "your grandma" etc so you might be able to completely avoid it until she's ready. It would be at that point where all your past conversations about your grandmother would come back and she'd know she was named after a person you loved and respected.
I suspect most children would feel treasured only when they find out a little later on, rather than from the get go
Hope that helps?
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