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in reply to a message by guru
It's a matter of manners and taste, guru. If you were addressing someone who already had two or more children and was considering having another child, but was not yet pregnant, I wouldn't really blame you for stating your opinion and your reasons as to why this person should not have another child.
But when you are addressing someone such as the OP, someone who is already pregnant, happy and excited about it, it's just in poor taste and rude to bring this up. You don't think she's going to run out and terminate her wanted pregnancy because of what you say, do you? So what's the point of talking like this? To try to make her feel crappy about her pregnancy so that by the time her child arrives, it isn't wanted any longer? What...is...the...point?
And the fact is that in her country, obviously, it's legal to have as many children as one wants, so she is within her rights to have a sixth. Much as I may be concerned about overpopulation, I can tell you, I would no more want to live in a country that would force me to abort than I would want to live in a country that prohibited me from aborting.
So I suggest you do as vigdis says and devote yourself to curbing global population, if you feel so strongly about it, but remember taste and manners and that there's a time and a place for everything.
But when you are addressing someone such as the OP, someone who is already pregnant, happy and excited about it, it's just in poor taste and rude to bring this up. You don't think she's going to run out and terminate her wanted pregnancy because of what you say, do you? So what's the point of talking like this? To try to make her feel crappy about her pregnancy so that by the time her child arrives, it isn't wanted any longer? What...is...the...point?
And the fact is that in her country, obviously, it's legal to have as many children as one wants, so she is within her rights to have a sixth. Much as I may be concerned about overpopulation, I can tell you, I would no more want to live in a country that would force me to abort than I would want to live in a country that prohibited me from aborting.
So I suggest you do as vigdis says and devote yourself to curbing global population, if you feel so strongly about it, but remember taste and manners and that there's a time and a place for everything.
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I disagree with you. Being pregnant for the sixth time does not excuse one from being told facts about the impact of their condition on a strained environment. I am also not concerned with perfect politeness to the point of self-censorship of said facts on a message forum which is a constant continuum of venomous rudeness to and from every direction every day.
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Oh, I'm recognizing you from several years ago, you pesky little devil!
You're not only unconcerned about "perfect politeness", you're unconcerned about any level of politeness, and you always did like to complain about the "venomous rudeness" that you always brought on to yourself.
Remember the lengthy arguments you and I used to get into? Well, they resulted in part because of the fact that you and I both were always determined to have the last word. Thankfully, I've rectified that fault in myself, though I can see that you haven't. So to avoid a lengthy slap-down, which takes up space needlessly and benefits nobody, this will be my last post to you. I will let you have the last word. That's just the kind of woman that I am.
You're not only unconcerned about "perfect politeness", you're unconcerned about any level of politeness, and you always did like to complain about the "venomous rudeness" that you always brought on to yourself.
Remember the lengthy arguments you and I used to get into? Well, they resulted in part because of the fact that you and I both were always determined to have the last word. Thankfully, I've rectified that fault in myself, though I can see that you haven't. So to avoid a lengthy slap-down, which takes up space needlessly and benefits nobody, this will be my last post to you. I will let you have the last word. That's just the kind of woman that I am.
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Thank you for being a shining beacon of reform, an example for us all. @@
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