Thank you for the kind, non-judmental but solid opinion and post, and I am beginning to accept your POV.
Ro is out b/c my 3 y.o. niece goes by that-and sadly, I don't care for Rosa or Rosie--but I do like Lili, had not thought of that one.
I'm really having a tough time coming to terms with her name being set in stone, but the longer it goes unchanged (as it has and will per my husband) the more I am having to accept it. I have had many a dream about reverting to Thalia, though it helped to hear my sister who is visiting say that she thought Rosalie a far prettier choice-the name still just doesn't feel right, and rather, feels wrong to me most of the time. I do try to spend lots of time just cuddling her when she is awake.
I had been occasionally referring to her as Teenie but my sister related a story today about a little girl whom her siblings called Minnie b/c they couldn't pronounce her name, and it stuck and now the child is all grown up and goes by Minnie, so maybe Teenie isn't a good idea. In fact, it took mr a while to shed my own nickname which was similarly diminutive.
I like the Salie idea, prn. the french way that I think Bear pointed out, Zelie-but will apparently have to give up on anything ending in A. My mother is calling her by both names b/c she loves it so much, and although a bit over-the-top, the full 5 syllables has been growing on me (i.e. calling her Rosalie Violet).
Rovio is awfully cute but all I can think of is angry birds-as I think Rovio is the name of the company that produces it, lol.
I am sure this too shall pass, I AM thrilled to have her here in my arms, and will try to find a way out of this spiral of name ruminations. Thank you for all of your thoughts and ideas!