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in reply to a message by mirfak
That is difficult when I see people make negative comments about my daughter's name but it is meaningful to me because it's an honoring name and it of course really suits her now. And we all have different tastes.
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It's not that I would take negative comments hard. It's just that it's so pointless for anyone to make them. Mostly I respond by feeling impatient and a little scornful. I mean, it's okay with me if people don't like it, or if they tell each other they don't - but them telling me so, would feel like someone telling me they don't like the shape of my ears. I'd want to say "Yeah, so it's not to your taste - cry me a river? Or maybe, just shut up? Is there some reason you think I care?"
I feel a little funny posting my opinions of names people claim are their kids' actual names. It's different from talking about what you might name them. I'm thinking, I am sure they don't really give a rip what I think, unless I praise the name ... they used it, so obvs they don't care if I don't like it, right? So since it's an Opinions Board, aren't they basically just fishing for compliments? That's okay, I'll give any compliments I have that are sincere, and hopefully if what I say isn't complimentary, they'll know that I realize my opinions are junk to them.
Anyway, I'm not looking for compliments on my kids' names, any more than I'm avoiding derogations. I already know that not a lot of people find my daughter's name really fabulous, just by the fact that only a few people use it for their daughters. And by the trouble people have with pronouncing it... lol. I know it's a nice decent name, and I'm fully aware of all the "drawbacks" it has - there's no new info for me in other people talking about the name. I decided none of the negatives were enough to ruin the name, and nobody's going to convince me otherwise now!
I feel a little funny posting my opinions of names people claim are their kids' actual names. It's different from talking about what you might name them. I'm thinking, I am sure they don't really give a rip what I think, unless I praise the name ... they used it, so obvs they don't care if I don't like it, right? So since it's an Opinions Board, aren't they basically just fishing for compliments? That's okay, I'll give any compliments I have that are sincere, and hopefully if what I say isn't complimentary, they'll know that I realize my opinions are junk to them.
Anyway, I'm not looking for compliments on my kids' names, any more than I'm avoiding derogations. I already know that not a lot of people find my daughter's name really fabulous, just by the fact that only a few people use it for their daughters. And by the trouble people have with pronouncing it... lol. I know it's a nice decent name, and I'm fully aware of all the "drawbacks" it has - there's no new info for me in other people talking about the name. I decided none of the negatives were enough to ruin the name, and nobody's going to convince me otherwise now!
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