This is what had me confused, Silver, where you wrote: "All my friends in rl (that can) and all my chat friends can come, including my online family (we are very close, mother, father, and my 2 children from 2 previous rlnships) and my grandson (product of my youngest child's affiar...)"
Don't know what that all was about! lol!
You sound pretty smart to me, Silver. I hope this guy you've been chatting with online is really all he's been telling you he is. I'm sure you don't need to be told that there are a lot of predators on the 'net out there, pretending to be younger than they really are.
Enjoy your 'net relationship -- but remember, keep yourself safe.