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Re: What do you think of this name?
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PS, I enjoy names and talking about them. Duh? It's not my fault people who like boring-ass Atticus Eleanor I-hope-my-potential-employer-can-tell-that-I'm-white names never want to stick up for them when I flamboyantly illustrate why I don't like them. Where anywhere did I imply that an equal and opposite reaction to my posts would be anything other than perfectly fair?I don't think there's a comparison between me not liking your Atticus Finchbutt names and this person's bizarrely vitriolic classist comments. I think it's clear to anyone with any kind of... uh, sense... at all... that my comments are made in a spirit of lighthearted dialogue, and meant to provoke a reaction. This person's comments are, like, quite different. Mean-spirited, completely judgmental, no room for subjectivity at all. It's not surprising to me that you would compare them, though - goes along with a lot of the other bizarrely clueless things you've posted in the past few days since you've been back. Seriously, what's going on? Are you sick or something? I don't remember you being this dull-witted.I find the construction "irritatingly grating" rather grating. Who taught you to write that way? Also I hope you know that your little passive aggressive dig towards me here, the kind which I find intolerable when directed towards anyone, has absolved me from any potential future mixed feelings I might have had about intentionally "irritatingly grating" on you every chance I get. Cheers, boring lady.

This message was edited 7/20/2013, 12:17 PM

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I'm not bothered whether you like my comments or liked names. I just thought I would point out how ironic it was that you are rude but like to point out when others are rude back to you. You do it to everyone, not just me, so I wasn't actually saying it in regard to anything you said to me. You're just generally rude. Apparently the internet gives you a mask that lets you just say whatever you want. I honestly don't care that much because its your opinion. What I care about is your lack of respect for anyone else's opinion.
The person was stating how they feel toward the names. Obviously if the poster thinks that way, other people will too, whether you or I agree with it. Thats why its an OPINION. Everyone can have an opinion, but obviously no one can have one that is different than yours. You have an "This is black, this is white. I'm right, you're wrong" mentality. Its just funny. Really. I giggle when I read your replies because they are so outrageously rude.

This message was edited 7/20/2013, 11:15 PM

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Everyone can have an opinion, but obviously no one can have one that is different than yours.Where on earth are you getting this idea? It's so obvious to you, but to me it's obviously not true. I was rude to this person because they were talking not about names but about something much deeper. In ordinary circumstances, I think what I think about names, and I have fun saying it and presenting it - what do I care what other people think? Like, what are you talking about? Other people aren't allowed, like I'm some kind of queen? Like even if I were BTN queen I'd prevent people with other opinions from saying anything? Like I want to be bellowing into an echo chamber? It's a community and a lot of people have different tastes and I like that. My opinions change all the time and I like that. I like expressing them while they're there. A lot of the time they're sort of loud and extreme. I present them that way, without defense. I think this is ok. What else am I supposed to do on a name forum...? Where do I disrespect the opinions of others, aside from this post? I just don't get it.I also think it's truly weird that you feel entitled to come on here and make weird, passive aggressive generalizations about my character, and not keep them to yourself. Very rude. Like, maybe I'm annoying, but it's not really your business, is it? Does anyone else think this is really weird, what she's doing here? Or is she justified and I'm just a troll who doesn't add anything to community and should glumly slink away tail between legs? I'm feeling weirdly bullied by you, I want someone to stick up for me. I don't usually get my character attacked on here. I don't think I ever have. It's no fun. Why are you doing it?

This message was edited 7/21/2013, 7:50 AM

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Yep, it's a little weird. But I checked - she isn't the same person as Ella. lol. You had to wonder because she reacted kinda as if you'd spoken that way to her - it was the tone, not the topic, that set her off. People generally don't put down each other's character on the internet, unless they have no good point and are just emotionally reacting in a way they don't want to understand. So you don't have to defend yourself. You called her "boring lady" and said she sounded "dull witted," so you did escalate. I think maybe she was just sort of bothered by how sharp you were? like, maybe she's supersensitive and has a defensive reaction to any trenchant verbal criticism, even though it wasn't criticism of her maybe she identifies a little with the person being razzed and vaguely felt like she should stand up. I'm going to hope that that's it, and that she learns not to bother reacting to stuff. I thought your response to Ella was funny. Haven't seen the ol' "would you trust a [insert profession here] with that name" argument around here in a while.
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I second Billina. You were totally justified in your response to Ella and you're not rude. LMS is making lots of generalizations about your character that are inaccurate and say a lot more about her than they do about you.

This message was edited 7/21/2013, 3:22 PM

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I'll stick up for you. I think Ella deserved to have someone call her out on her nasty attitude. Really, implying the OP might hate her child for giving her that name? If she doesn't like it, fine, but there are less asshole-y ways to express that opinion, no? Disagree all you want, but be an adult about it. I saw nothing in your reply to Ella that was unnecessarily rude or uncalled for. LMS is only using this as a springboard to defend her taste for...some reason. What IS the reason, LMS? Is it because blaaaarg is one of the most outspoken people on the board? Chill.

This message was edited 7/21/2013, 1:20 PM

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