I've added a few more just to convince myself. Here are my thoughts:
Julian Wesley (front runner)
Julian Aubrey (love--but afraid of feminine connotation here in US)
Julian Wyatt (too trendy?)
Julian Blake (i tend to like Blake for a girl typically-- and I also think of the poet, William Blake)
There are others I like but we can't do anything that ends in 'er' b/c it doesn't sound right with our last name. I know it's just the middle name, but I see it as such a big decision! Any other suggestions? Thank you!!