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HelpRe: The name my husband always wanted vs. My Dream
in reply to a message by LV51sfan91
Your edit is worse by far than some of the replies you're complaining about. Caps lock, really? Being insulting doesn't usually make other people feel less inclined to be insulting.
This is a name opinion board, and so there will be people who give their honest opinion of names you mention. It doesn't matter if you asked or not. People are here to talk about their opinions of names (and we're not all always ladies). We like to read each other's honest opinions, too. You seem to be expecting something more like a ttc support group.
Whether you find responses well-written, helpful, or worth your time, is all your own business. It's nice when people's opinions are taken to be helpful, but it's OK here for people to give honest opinions about names even when they're not considered helpful by an OP.
Opinions are like assholes, you know - everyone's got one. You can ignore them if they miss the mark and don't help you, because they only reflect on the person giving them. If you think they reflect a bad light ... it doesn't get on you, and everyone else probably sees it too.
I'm hoping that you were just being unusually reactive (it happens sometimes in early pregnancy), and you'll see what I'm saying here.
About Eskenazi - to me it doesn't matter whether the baby is Jewish or not. The combo makes a kind of adjective-noun phrase, like Brooklyn Lily. Brooklyn Eskenazi = a Jewish person from Brooklyn? I have nothing against Jewish people but that's how the combo sounds to me. Brooklyn Christian would have a similar thing going on. I'm telling you so you might consider how it sounds to some others, which I assume is a reason you asked for opinions. I'm not telling you in order to slam you for proposing it.
You're kind of asking for people to tell you we think it's okay for you to change your mind about having agreed to name a girl Lillian. Of course it is. What wouldn't be okay, is if you go into the conversation determined to make him yield to your conviction that the baby is MEANT TO BE NAMED Brooklyn. You still have to name her together, and you might not get exactly what you want, and it'll be okay if you don't. I'm imagining that could be more helpful than if I said - well, God has spoken and her name is Brooklyn, so who cares what your husband thinks.
Best wishes for your pregnancy.
- mirfak
This is a name opinion board, and so there will be people who give their honest opinion of names you mention. It doesn't matter if you asked or not. People are here to talk about their opinions of names (and we're not all always ladies). We like to read each other's honest opinions, too. You seem to be expecting something more like a ttc support group.
Whether you find responses well-written, helpful, or worth your time, is all your own business. It's nice when people's opinions are taken to be helpful, but it's OK here for people to give honest opinions about names even when they're not considered helpful by an OP.
Opinions are like assholes, you know - everyone's got one. You can ignore them if they miss the mark and don't help you, because they only reflect on the person giving them. If you think they reflect a bad light ... it doesn't get on you, and everyone else probably sees it too.
I'm hoping that you were just being unusually reactive (it happens sometimes in early pregnancy), and you'll see what I'm saying here.
About Eskenazi - to me it doesn't matter whether the baby is Jewish or not. The combo makes a kind of adjective-noun phrase, like Brooklyn Lily. Brooklyn Eskenazi = a Jewish person from Brooklyn? I have nothing against Jewish people but that's how the combo sounds to me. Brooklyn Christian would have a similar thing going on. I'm telling you so you might consider how it sounds to some others, which I assume is a reason you asked for opinions. I'm not telling you in order to slam you for proposing it.
You're kind of asking for people to tell you we think it's okay for you to change your mind about having agreed to name a girl Lillian. Of course it is. What wouldn't be okay, is if you go into the conversation determined to make him yield to your conviction that the baby is MEANT TO BE NAMED Brooklyn. You still have to name her together, and you might not get exactly what you want, and it'll be okay if you don't. I'm imagining that could be more helpful than if I said - well, God has spoken and her name is Brooklyn, so who cares what your husband thinks.
Best wishes for your pregnancy.
- mirfak
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Thank you for your response. I used upper case letters to get peoples attention not to insult. I didn’t ask for opinions about Brooklyn just Brooklyn Eskenazi. That’s why this is frustrating.
This message was edited 6/16/2018, 11:58 PM
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