No no no no
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I hate it. They don't need to honor the father. They have his last name. The only way I could kinda see it was ok is if it was the mothers maiden name or something.. however I wouldn't do it.
I really hate boys names on girls in almost any circumstance.
I really hate boys names on girls in almost any circumstance.
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Do you think of having a father's last name as honouring? That has never crossed my mind. In my circles, it is extremely common for wives to take their husband's last name. And, at least in my experience, after the four years of marriage before having kids I certainly felt like it was my last name too. It had come to represent us together and now our whole family. I don't think of it as HIS last name so much as OURS.
I've had my married name for thirty-four years now, which is fourteen years longer than I ever had my maiden name, and I still don't feel that it says "me" the way that my maiden name did. Now that you mention it, and I've examined how I really feel, I do feel that the name "belongs" much more to my husband and my children than it does to me.
I've wondered whether the fact that I am a teacher and so have always had students call me by Mrs Lastname makes a difference. I was still in school while I was single/engaged and so have only used my married name in my profession. Maybe that contributes to feeling like it is me.
Does your job (or do other things) mean people call you Mrs ___?
Does your job (or do other things) mean people call you Mrs ___?
No. I am so rarely ever called Mrs. Lastname.
We are relatively formal, where I live.Just yesterday, I happened to meet my son's mother-in-law, and her sister, at the grocery store. I hadn't met this sister before, so son's MIL introduced me as "Mme.A."
Sometimes my son's MIL and I first-name each other, but more usually, I'd call her Mme. Jacqueline (her first name), and she calls me Mme.Jean.
(should add, she is the nicest of women, and fond of my son, as he is of her.)
Sometimes my son's MIL and I first-name each other, but more usually, I'd call her Mme. Jacqueline (her first name), and she calls me Mme.Jean.
(should add, she is the nicest of women, and fond of my son, as he is of her.)
It must be a difference between Canadians and Americans. I can't imagine Americans doing that. Even my friends' children didn't call me Mrs. Lastname. They called me Miss Janice.
Well, Canada is a big country, and I only know well the particular corner that I've lived in, for most of my married life. So, I can't speak for the whole country! :-)