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HelpI hate my name! What should i do?
Hello. I really hate my name and i want to change it. Do you think my name is weird.
My name is Thomas Thorsen and i hate it because my first name Thomas begins with Tho and my last name Thorsen begins with Tho. Also my name is too long and i hate my middle names as well. BTW I knew people with my name that i hated. Even though i like who i was named after.
WHY DOESN'T PEOPLE THINK THOMAS THORSEN IS TOO CLOSE. IT"S Like JOHN JOHNSON or Philip PHILLIPS! Why doesn't people have sympathy for me. Please Help.
My name is Thomas Thorsen and i hate it because my first name Thomas begins with Tho and my last name Thorsen begins with Tho. Also my name is too long and i hate my middle names as well. BTW I knew people with my name that i hated. Even though i like who i was named after.
WHY DOESN'T PEOPLE THINK THOMAS THORSEN IS TOO CLOSE. IT"S Like JOHN JOHNSON or Philip PHILLIPS! Why doesn't people have sympathy for me. Please Help.
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A little late, but in the interest of balance and to present an opposing viewpoint
Don't change your name. DON'T DO IT. It's disrespectful. It's one of the most disrespectful things one can do to one's parents. And don't bother coming back and saying my parents don't care because I won't buy it and don't bother coming back and saying it's my right because I don't care. It's disrespectful.
There's not one darn thing wrong with your name, certainly nothing that a reasonable person would see as a reason for change.
Don't change your name. DON'T DO IT. It's disrespectful. It's one of the most disrespectful things one can do to one's parents. And don't bother coming back and saying my parents don't care because I won't buy it and don't bother coming back and saying it's my right because I don't care. It's disrespectful.
There's not one darn thing wrong with your name, certainly nothing that a reasonable person would see as a reason for change.
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No. There certainly comes a point when people should stop taking dictations from their parents and go their own way. It is a clear personal freedom and a choice we enjoy as adults, and the law reflects this freedom.
If someone doesn't like the name their parents chose for them (and parents choose horrid names on a daily basis, as we all know), and said person finds said name not resonant with their own taste or that it bothers them in some way, I say change it and be free. We all deserve to be happy, even despite our parents.
What would you say to a person who was transgender? Keep their original assigned name just to please their parents? No. That would be absurd. It wouldn't fit their self-identification. But one does not have to change their gender to change their name -- they simply have to want the change.
It is not good of you to make this person feel bad about exercising his freedom. You're exhibiting behavior of someone who is controlling, self-centered, and narrow-minded.
If someone doesn't like the name their parents chose for them (and parents choose horrid names on a daily basis, as we all know), and said person finds said name not resonant with their own taste or that it bothers them in some way, I say change it and be free. We all deserve to be happy, even despite our parents.
What would you say to a person who was transgender? Keep their original assigned name just to please their parents? No. That would be absurd. It wouldn't fit their self-identification. But one does not have to change their gender to change their name -- they simply have to want the change.
It is not good of you to make this person feel bad about exercising his freedom. You're exhibiting behavior of someone who is controlling, self-centered, and narrow-minded.
This message was edited 4/1/2015, 3:19 AM
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LOL. You don't know me very well, do you? As a person, and especially as a parent, I'm as far from "controlling, self-centered, and narrow-minded" as it's possible to be. But the thing is, I am a parent, and you are not. I have the experience of creating and raising two human beings, and I know the love and the joy and the pride and the hopes and the dreams, and also the fears, the worries, the sacrifices, the times when one feels burdened, the struggle to maintain the relationship with the other parent that existed before the children were born. And as a parent, I say that the right to name your newborn child is one of the privileges of parenthood that can certainly legally be cast aside by the child, (and I wouldn't change that) but to do so is supremely disrespectful. And I don't pretend to speak for all parents, but I do speak for some, from the perspective of a parent, which is something that you just plain can't do. And as such, I couldn't care less about your judgments.
In the case of transgender people, I would consider that an extreme case, which, since only .3% of the population is transgender, it really is.
In the case of transgender people, I would consider that an extreme case, which, since only .3% of the population is transgender, it really is.
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Disrespectful? It's disrespectful of the parents to enforce a name their child doesn't like. Names are a very personal thing.
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No, you are wrong. I'm usually the first to object to parents attempting to enforce beliefs and attitudes onto their grown children and the first to object to parents not respecting the fact that their children may have grown up to not be clones of themselves. But this is different. There are many responsibilities and sacrifices involved with being a parent, as well as the joys. One of the privileges of parenthood is to name the child, and it's extremely disrespectful of the child, a person who would not exist if not for the sacrifices made by the parents, to take that privilege away, unless it's an extreme case.
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... I wont say that my parents would't care, then, but I can say that if my kids decide to change their names when they're older I would not be offended. I would not feel like they were disrespecting me, and I definitely wouldn't think it was one of the most disrespectful things they could do! I can think of many, many worse.
It's possibly a culture thing, I don't know. But I wanted to say so, because you said so strongly you wouldn't believe it if he said his parents didn't care. Maybe his parents don't care. Because as a parent, I wouldn't.
It's possibly a culture thing, I don't know. But I wanted to say so, because you said so strongly you wouldn't believe it if he said his parents didn't care. Maybe his parents don't care. Because as a parent, I wouldn't.
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I'm not a mother, but I can't imagine not caring at least a little bit if my kid wanted to change their name. I don't think I would "plotz and die", but I would be lying if I said it wouldn't bother me at all. Calling my kid by a completely different name all of a sudden would be weird.
This message was edited 3/29/2015, 1:53 PM
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I would plotz and die if my kids changed their names. And if my son ever changed his name, my husband would roll over in his grave.
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Wow. This is so interesting to me! I'm glad you said something. It's not a thing I ever thought was might be different anywhere. Thanks (:
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Change it to something you do like if it makes you miserable. People do it every day. You only live once. If you find your name unremarkable, find a one that stimulates your self-perception positively. Might as well enjoy yourself!
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I suggest you get over yourself and tough up. Perhaps distract yourself by studying English grammar and punctuation.
You might also consider a career as a salesman. Your names could be a good way of starting a conversation, engaging people's interest etc.
You might also consider a career as a salesman. Your names could be a good way of starting a conversation, engaging people's interest etc.
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I never thought of that? Thanks for your opinion.
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There's nothing really alliterative about Thomas Thorsen. Thomas is pronounced with a hard "T" sound as in tornado, whereas Thorsen is pronounced with the "TH" blend as in the. Two wholly different sounds. It's kinda like complaining about being named Phoebe Peters; both start with "P" but have two distinct sounds. So not a big deal, imho. I think Thomas Thorsen (how is it too long?) flows fine, myself. But eh. It's up to you.
I still give Thor Thompson my blessing--
WAAAIT A MINUTE.
WAIT A COTTON-PICKIN' MINUTE.
Why are you okay with Thor Thompson? Doesn't that have the exact "problem" that Thomas Thorsen has...?
You're confusing me, amigo. .-.
I still give Thor Thompson my blessing--
WAAAIT A MINUTE.
WAIT A COTTON-PICKIN' MINUTE.
Why are you okay with Thor Thompson? Doesn't that have the exact "problem" that Thomas Thorsen has...?
You're confusing me, amigo. .-.
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So you want a name that is share with many people in your family? So why not just pick a name from among your family members' names and go with that?
If you don't like Tom or Tommy, politely ask people not to call you either of those. My name is Catherine, and I've corrected people when they're called me Cathy or Katie.
You are confusing, because in the OP you specifically said you hate your name because your FN and LN start with the same 3 letters and they are thus too close. Not you're giving completely different reasons.
If you don't like Tom or Tommy, politely ask people not to call you either of those. My name is Catherine, and I've corrected people when they're called me Cathy or Katie.
You are confusing, because in the OP you specifically said you hate your name because your FN and LN start with the same 3 letters and they are thus too close. Not you're giving completely different reasons.
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Pretty much this, yeah.
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I wondered that too...
...I don't think he specified it as a problem, but maybe losing the repeated "s" helps.
...I don't think he specified it as a problem, but maybe losing the repeated "s" helps.
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I mainly dislike it because i want a cooler name.
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^^ ditto
totally agree.
totally agree.
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What do you mean totally Agree!!!??
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You should change it to Thor Thompson
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LOL that is funny, I kinda like it. Thanks for the inspiration New_Chloe. Please see my recent message on the message board. Also do you want to be friends.
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If you truly hate your name enough to go through the hassle and red tape of changing it, I think many here can feel for you. Don't know that anyone can really help, however.
The way I read/say your name, "Tho" from Thomas sounds like "Taw", rhyming with "law" which is a very different sound from Thorsen's "Th" and long "o", "Thor" rhyming with "core".
Personally, I've always thought Thomas a handsome name; used to head over heels for a very magnetic one.
The way I read/say your name, "Tho" from Thomas sounds like "Taw", rhyming with "law" which is a very different sound from Thorsen's "Th" and long "o", "Thor" rhyming with "core".
Personally, I've always thought Thomas a handsome name; used to head over heels for a very magnetic one.
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Thanks for your opinion Tiggs. BTW What do you think goes with Thorsen?
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Hey Tiggs, Want to be friends?
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If you really hate it and it bothers you then change it. It's not expensive to do.
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Thanks for the information A. How much does it cost if your 16 years old. Because i'm 16.
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Hey A, Want to be Friends?
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Aw, it's not too close. I think it's neat, the way the names look matched but sound distinct. I would not even have noticed the match if you hadn't pointed it out, to be honest. The name works nicely.
Spoken out loud, I say TOM-as THOR-sen ... isn't that right?
If it's said TOM-as TOR-sen, then I can see your problem for sure. But it's not Thomas Thomasson or Thor Thorsen or even Thomas Thompson. Those would be like John Johnson. But Thomas Thorsen is no worse than Gerald Geffen or Peter Phelps.
If you hate your name, you could just change it, couldn't you?
Spoken out loud, I say TOM-as THOR-sen ... isn't that right?
If it's said TOM-as TOR-sen, then I can see your problem for sure. But it's not Thomas Thomasson or Thor Thorsen or even Thomas Thompson. Those would be like John Johnson. But Thomas Thorsen is no worse than Gerald Geffen or Peter Phelps.
If you hate your name, you could just change it, couldn't you?
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Thank you for your Opinion mifak! Besides, Thomas Thompson is worse.
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Hey mirfak, Want to be friends?
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