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HelpRe: The name my husband always wanted vs. My Dream
in reply to a message by LV51sfan91
I like Brooklyn Lillian. Flow doesn’t matter as much as meaning, in this case (I think). If you dislike Lillian, that shouldn’t be your child’s name. If you both like Brooklyn, that is a step above Lillian. I’m going to disagree with the other posters and say a dream is a good reason to use a name. Some of the coolest name stories I know are because the mom had a dream the child was called that. I don’t think it’s manipulative if it’s true; you had that dream, and if you have a respectful, healthy relationship with your husband it’s not manipulative to speak the truth.
I also think mothers have a special weight to name kids seeing as they carry them, in the majority of cases. Mothers’ dreams are meaningful, imho.
See if you warm up to Brooklyn Lillian. :)
PS — Congratulations.
I also think mothers have a special weight to name kids seeing as they carry them, in the majority of cases. Mothers’ dreams are meaningful, imho.
See if you warm up to Brooklyn Lillian. :)
PS — Congratulations.
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I actually agree with you that a dream can be meaningful like that, and it should be okay to mention it. But if it were totally okay to mention it, would one turn to the internet, instead of turning to one's husband and mentioning it?
I don't think it's "unhealthy," if you know your partner feels committed to using an honoring name, and might be very hurt at first if you changed your mind about it. It's something you might have to be delicate about. That's what I meant by coming off as manipulative...
I was committed to giving my father's name to my son as a middle name. If my husband had said "I dreamed we named the baby something else, and so I feel it was meant to be different, would you reconsider" ... it wouldn't have been as nice a conversation, as it would if he had just said he wasn't that happy about the name, and wanted to use something else, and *then* said he dreamed of a son with a certain name.
I don't think it's "unhealthy," if you know your partner feels committed to using an honoring name, and might be very hurt at first if you changed your mind about it. It's something you might have to be delicate about. That's what I meant by coming off as manipulative...
I was committed to giving my father's name to my son as a middle name. If my husband had said "I dreamed we named the baby something else, and so I feel it was meant to be different, would you reconsider" ... it wouldn't have been as nice a conversation, as it would if he had just said he wasn't that happy about the name, and wanted to use something else, and *then* said he dreamed of a son with a certain name.
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