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I actually agree with you that a dream can be meaningful like that, and it should be okay to mention it. But if it were totally okay to mention it, would one turn to the internet, instead of turning to one's husband and mentioning it?

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I don't think it's "unhealthy," if you know your partner feels committed to using an honoring name, and might be very hurt at first if you changed your mind about it. It's something you might have to be delicate about. That's what I meant by coming off as manipulative...

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I was committed to giving my father's name to my son as a middle name. If my husband had said "I dreamed we named the baby something else, and so I feel it was meant to be different, would you reconsider" ... it wouldn't have been as nice a conversation, as it would if he had just said he wasn't that happy about the name, and wanted to use something else, and *then* said he dreamed of a son with a certain name.

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- mirfak