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HelpRe: A Little Dilemma With Honour Names (Warning: long!)
in reply to a message by mirfak
Yeah, I think middle names will save us. DH does like my name very much and he really wants us to use it. I'm kind of more feeling the need to modify the name, and use a variation ala Maria or Mariana. The problem is just that I don't like his (first) name, and I cringe at the thought of having another 'James'. His middle name is much more meaningful, I think, so hopefully that's the route we'll take. I'm a bit worried that his family will be enraged/hurt -- after all, we will be breaking more or less of a tradition. I hope we'll be able to use a variation of my MIL's name instead. It's time that she gets some love, too.
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Yeah, I see how it makes you cringe. Naming four sons after yourself doesn't make it a tradition, and if any naming after oneself looks "stupid," it's gotta be naming all four of your sons after yourself. Haha. If I were your husband, I'd want to step out of my dad's shadow by naming a son anything but James.
Anyway, if he's supposed to follow the James "tradition" then shouldn't his own brothers all follow it, too, and ought every one of the child's male cousins on Dad's side also have the same name? Nobody needs that much "honoring," IMO. Too silly!
It was satisfying (to me anyway) to put honoring names in the middle slot. I gave my son my (deceased) father's name as a middle name. However I don't think I'd have regretted it terribly, if my husband had objected and we'd just used a name we both liked, instead. It wasn't something worth going to the mat over. It seemed really important when I was pregnant, but now the boy is named - and although I am happy I gave him the honoring name, I realize it wasn't that crucial after all.
Anyway, if he's supposed to follow the James "tradition" then shouldn't his own brothers all follow it, too, and ought every one of the child's male cousins on Dad's side also have the same name? Nobody needs that much "honoring," IMO. Too silly!
It was satisfying (to me anyway) to put honoring names in the middle slot. I gave my son my (deceased) father's name as a middle name. However I don't think I'd have regretted it terribly, if my husband had objected and we'd just used a name we both liked, instead. It wasn't something worth going to the mat over. It seemed really important when I was pregnant, but now the boy is named - and although I am happy I gave him the honoring name, I realize it wasn't that crucial after all.
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Yes, and I know for a fact that his brothers will use 'James' -- They are all for tradition. I also think it's completely silly. I know they wouldn't create a spectacle if we don't use it, but I'm a bit scared my son will feel like an outsider. There are several other people from my family (and his, too) that I'd like to honor.
Thanks for your opinion!
Thanks for your opinion!
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