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HelpRe: Antonia doesn't have to be Toni (carry it on)
in reply to a message by Millie
No one should ever suffer a name to be different than the name s/he provides. If the parent guardian is the name giver--and the child seems to respond, or prefer, one version better than another - cannot this child / person use it?
Sadly, not necessarily. People often allow themselves liberties based upon common knowledge - which little involves individual preference.
The following is a fictitious set of possibilities - some or all of this quite probably occurs more often than anyone can know.
If my name were Samantha but prefer, Sam, and were only addressed as Samantha when parents were upset or trying to scold or punish me, should the parent/guardian have the right to call me Samantha?
Suddenly I am in school (kindergarten?): a teacher decides not to address me as Sam, which I prefer, but Samantha, because there is another Samantha (or Samuel) in the same class who has already been deemed the name Sam. Sadly - the teacher will call me as s/he prefers in any situation. Isn't this sad?
As I grow I seem to prefer the name Samantha - but after working so (damn) hard for folks to address me as Sam, I learned to enjoy the "more serious" connotation of the formal name. So now that I am an adult, I am in the working world. I want to be Samantha (not Sam). Unfortunately for me, another Samantha, who joined the company prior to me has already been deemed that name. So I am Sam - yet eventually, the other Samantha moves on to another position, and I am stuck with the name Sam - yet this little involves me, my person, or my preference.
Sadly, not necessarily. People often allow themselves liberties based upon common knowledge - which little involves individual preference.
The following is a fictitious set of possibilities - some or all of this quite probably occurs more often than anyone can know.
If my name were Samantha but prefer, Sam, and were only addressed as Samantha when parents were upset or trying to scold or punish me, should the parent/guardian have the right to call me Samantha?
Suddenly I am in school (kindergarten?): a teacher decides not to address me as Sam, which I prefer, but Samantha, because there is another Samantha (or Samuel) in the same class who has already been deemed the name Sam. Sadly - the teacher will call me as s/he prefers in any situation. Isn't this sad?
As I grow I seem to prefer the name Samantha - but after working so (damn) hard for folks to address me as Sam, I learned to enjoy the "more serious" connotation of the formal name. So now that I am an adult, I am in the working world. I want to be Samantha (not Sam). Unfortunately for me, another Samantha, who joined the company prior to me has already been deemed that name. So I am Sam - yet eventually, the other Samantha moves on to another position, and I am stuck with the name Sam - yet this little involves me, my person, or my preference.
This message was edited 4/22/2018, 1:58 AM
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