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I say just chill and think about it, and if you don't insist on anything he can't either. You have a lot of time, and the last thing you need is to make the name a point of argument that will last your whole pregnancy and leave someone feeling slightly bitter on birth day.

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No matter what is said now, it's not a done deal. If it comes up, I'd just say, "If it's a girl, I know we were thinking Lillian but I just keep thinking about Brooklyn, I love it so much." - and just see what he says, and don't react to it. I'd just promise to keep thinking about it, and ask him to do the same.

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I wouldn't try to make deals over the middle name at this point. Until he signals that he's willing to talk compromise. I'd try to back off and let him consider the possibility of not calling her Lillian after all ... and for myself, accept the possibility of not calling her Brooklyn.

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I wouldn't mention the dream. It doesn't give you any leverage and I think it could come off as manipulative.

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Eskenazi isn't a very good middle name IMO, nor does it honor his mother in the same way Lillian does.
You could name her Lillian Brooklyn (it does sound nice), and call her Brooklyn. I think it's an appealing option you could think about offering, if he negotiates.

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I don't agree that Lilly / Lily is inevitable. You just use Lillian all the time, and voila, you've got it. If someone calls her Lily you say, "we don't use Lily, it's Lillian, same as her dad's ma" and they either comply or they're a jerk. Maybe she'll prefer Lilly someday but by then you'd be too happy to have a growing daughter with her own opinions, to care.

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- mirfak